5 Things I'm Learning in Marriage

1. Unity is not simply found in compromise but in Christ



...is not found in merely compromise

but in Christ.

-Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own understanding. Acknowledge Him in all thine ways and He will direct thy paths (Some verses are hard to translate outside of the KJV lol)

There have been so many times in which I felt that marriage composed of compromise 100% of the time. If I wanted something and my husband wanted another...I figured we’d just come to the middle and keep it moving. I thought this would simply maintain inevitable peace between my husband and I. But what I’ve come to find out is that true unity, true oneness, and true concordance is found in Christ and not in a set methodology of seeking merely compromise. There will be times in which the Holy Spirit will tell you to simply meet the other all the way rather than in the middle, and vice versa. It is important to follow the Spirit, even in the most mundane things. He is intimately connected to every detail in your life.

When you sense this nudge, be careful to not hold onto your own worldly knowledge by exclaiming that you have every right to not give in; or be careful to not add up all the countless times in which you’ve felt yourself give in already. This leads only to bitterness, as you can easily slip into pointing the finger incessantly at the other. When both you and your spouse are following Christ, it produces the most beautiful fruit. When you find yourself being the only one following Christ, always remember that His grace is sufficient. He gives you the right amount of  grace to handle your spouse, that situation, or that decision made without your approval. Unity may not always be found in compromise. It's found in Christ! Listen to His wisdom and not your own.